We All Love Being Happy

Happiness is something everyone craves in life. It is what makes life worth living for. People go through unnecessary things to try to be happy. Stacey Charter once said, “Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself- no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are- completely; the good and the bad- and make changes as YOU see fit- not because you think someone else wants you to be different.” This tends to happen a lot when it comes to relationships. Many people think that if they have someone there to make them feel good about themselves it will make them happy. This is a recipe for disaster.  At our young age, we tend to make our decisions based upon what other will think of us. But really, no one notices the details because they’re too worried about their own problems. Many people say they “are they are their own biggest enemy” and that is true on many levels. We always criticize ourselves for things that don’t even matter. Being satisfied with yourself and not caring about others opinions is the key to making yourself happy. Not relying on another person to make you happy. No one is perfect, so people need to stop putting their standards so sky high.          

                For me, when it comes to cooking I am never satisfied with anything. I tend to forget parts of ingredients and food doesn’t come out right. I don’t like cooking for people because I feel they won’t like my food. I feel them judging me at all times, even though that is not the case. I want to satisfy them and that makes me happy. But when I rely on their satisfaction to make me happy I stress myself out and then it leads me to forget about turning on the oven to bake the cake. Point is I am not happy with my cooking.  All bad.

                When we can’t love and respect ourselves, we can’t expect others to do that for us. It comes from the inside of us and then projects out gradually. Like when girls put themselves out there, no one respects them because they can respect themselves. Respect is the first thing that comes from people when they see you are happy and love yourself flaws and all. No one is perfect so being the best we can be, in whatever way that is, wins out in the long run. People can’t change because they want others to like them; they need to change for the better of themselves to make themselves happy. It’s hard pleasing everyone, and the only people worth gaining respect from are the people who are closets to us and are there for us no matter what. Happiness and love can come from them but we need to spark that truth into ourselves.  Once we believe in that, happiness and our self worth will come by itself.